Ms D and Mr B are at loggerheads again but this time, you can call it a typical case of: “Who, me?” “Yes, you.” “Couldn’t be.” “Then who?” Like the saying goes, it’s the mother who knows the father of her child. Let’s see if this can be resolved… Ms D You are not man enough to take up the responsibility of raising a child Welcome to the world cute baby but sorry hon, there’s no dad! This is the scenario some of us face as women these days. Of course we didn’t get ourselves pregnant but someone is too ‘chicken’ to own up to his responsibilities.
Once upon a time, babies were a thing of joy and acceptance but what happens now is a lot of baby mamas with denying fathers. Words cannot describe the extent of our heartbreak when the men we once loved and thought loved us back take to their heels when we need them most, as a matter of fact, when there is news that we’re pregnant. There are so many of us women who have been forced to be single parents and go through the hardship and stigma of raising children alone because the supposed fathers have denied any involvement with us, let alone own up to being responsible for the child or children. The lamest and most popular excuse men give for denying the pregnancy or child is: “How sure are you that it’s my child?” We don’t disagree with the fact that there are a lot of shady girls out there but even when a guy knows that his partner is faithful and is not capable of cheating on him, he suddenly develops theories of how the woman must have been playing behind his back. The only word we can use to describe this is cowardice! What result were you expecting when we both did everything that could possibly lead to having a baby? Do you want to argue that you had protection or ask why we didn’t take the Pill? The plain truth is that you are not man enough to take up the responsibility of raising a child and that is what scares you, not whether the child is yours or not! Just a little advice: before you go around sowing your wild oats, make sure you are ready for the responsibilities which come with having a baby. Mr B Men too have a sixth sense and know their babies even while still foetuses When it suits the female folk, they’re quick to rehash the cliché that a woman knows the father of her baby. But the big question is: will she tell the truth?
Although usually understated, men too have a sixth sense and know their babies even while still foetuses; just as a woman has that intuition about who the father of her baby is from her several or few lovers. Hmm… now, that’s another sore point. In fact, the most painful part! How about the other guys? We both know, don’t we? How about if she only made the claim because she was looking for someone to play the social and financial father; while the biological father lurks around until the child is fully grown? Who wants a messy paternity fight over a child he’s laboured for all his life, while the woman stays aloof, grinning devilishly by the side and ready to play the joker?! It beats the imagination when a lady (especially one you’re still in an open relationship with) walks up to you with a suspicious ‘doctor’s report’ and announces: “We’re having a baby.” Whaaaat! But no; she doesn’t just stop there. She goes around to family, friends and relatives spreading the rumour and trying to play the victim. Of course our whole world crashes and our self-esteem deflates.
Now, whose heart is actually broken? I know we had a one-night stand; but that was such a long time ago and I had protection, so why would you scheme to trick me into accepting that the baby is mine? All because, in your quiet moments of mischievous calculation, you decided that I’ll best play the ‘father’? Don’t get it mixed up; a baby is cute and adorable to guys, as they are to women, but why should I accept responsibility for another guy’s job? Sure, the woman knows the father of her baby but the man too will know if she’s lying because she may just be playing him for a fool – the ultimate fool! Darling, it definitely wasn’t me… trust me, I’ll know when it is.